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Claudia's Insights: Whatever Someone Does “to” Me, Has Nothing to Do With Me and All to Do With The Other Person.
Insight no 1:
Whatever someone does “to” me, has nothing to do with me and all to do with the other person.
“He never said thank you – he’s ignoring me….I’m not really important”. We’ve all been there. Someone treats us horrible, outside of our set of values or understanding. We start interpreting, put a label on the behaviour, judge, and unfortunately, the judgement often has to do with beating ourselves up on some level.
It must be me, right? Why would this person say that otherwise (or ignore me, or be rude, offensive or whatever)?
WRONG.
We all go through some struggle. So does the person we might have issues with. Most of our thoughts circle around ourselves (this is why we take things so personally!). So do the thoughts of the other person.
Their rudeness, offensiveness, negligence or dismissiveness has nothing to do with us and all with him or her. How he sees the world, what kind of challenges the person deals...
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Hi, I'm Claudia and the founder of The Better Workplace and creator of the Personal Leadership eXperience 5.0 program. Having spent 30 years in leading positions in the IT business, and running my own company provided me with tons of knowledge, insight and learnings which I'm sharing with you on a weekly basis. Oh - and did I mention that I raised two kids on my own? That was probably when I learned most about humans - how we work, and where we screw up. What works, what doesn't work. What makes us happy, how to get those relationships working and how to get more energy. Still lots to learn and to find out - and you can be the first to learn what I learn - just subscribe to my weekly newsletter and you're in. Lots of love, Claudia
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