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Are you ready to take charge?
Are you prepared to walk into some discomfort?
There is a reason I ask those questions - because if you're not - this podcast is not for you.
Admittedly we all cringe when being confronted with what most of us would call "negative" or "bad" emotions.
Many of us rather pull our fingernails out than talk or even deal with that kind of stuff.
I get it - it's uncomfortable, it might even create some fear ("how the heck do I deal with it anyway?"), but quite honestly - I've experienced that the whole topic is much easier to deal with than I thought years ago.
And still, many people don't know the HOW and just want them to go away.
Pushing them away comes with a price though.
AND there are convincing reasons why all of us better talk about this topic. To be precise - in this podcast, you'll learn about 6 of them - pretty sure there are even more.
So, here's what I'm talking about:
1. The 6 reasons WHY it's so...
….is….to feel good.
"That is not rocket science, Claudia...I really expected something more spectacular!" - you might think.
You're right - it isn't.
The thing is - good can mean many different things for different people.
AND - many don't. Feel good that is (reason enough to talk about it!)
At least not when they are honest with themselves and don't put the social media or "professional" mask on.
Because they're waiting for the next thing to happen to ALLOW themselves to feel good.
If/when I do/achieve/have ……I will feel great/happy/good/successful….(fill in the blanks).
Tricky though. Cause it might not happen.
IF it comes though... the money, the career, the lover…they can all trigger us feeling great. Nothing wrong with that.
BUT today I have a different suggestion.
Listen in to this week's podcast to my pondering of:
1. What "good" means for different people
2. Why the circumstances or other...
Fear is the worst advisor in our life. And often people pay attention to it or their decisions are influenced by it without even realizing that it's fear they're listening to.
Been there, done that - and sometimes still do (when my awareness is lacking!).
Fear is a common and daily companion for most people....and let's face it... it has its place and can prevent us from taking unnecessary risks...like crossing a motorway during rush hour.
The sensation of fear does not distinguish though between an actual threat to our life....or an emotional threat. It simply kicks in - worst case with dire consequences for our life costing us more than we care to admit.
Listen in to learn:
1. Why fear is such a bad advisor
2. The 4 main costs we pay for letting fear reign
3. The 2 major ingredients of the alternative way
PS: If you have any comments or questions, just drop me an e-mail at [email protected]
In the past, when people shouted at me, shut down, or were getting very defensive, I got really furious. Or frustrated. And took it personally. Almost always.
And believed that there was absolutely no reason for their behaviour.
What I simply couldn't see back then was THAT EVERY PERSON HAS THEIR OWN STRUGGLES.
Maybe the colleague (or your partner at home) has experienced things that traumatized them, or it might be a childhood trauma that still sticks with them. Maybe they had or have a difficult situation that now triggers habitual responses.
Which makes them less attentive. Less focused and maybe even absent-minded. Or even rude, dismissive or aggressive in a conversation or interaction.
"Not my problem", you could say.
And yes, in a way, you're right.
While it's not your responsibility how someone reacts, it could impact your relationship drastically.
Whatever it is - a be a big deal for the other person, or maybe it's just an emotional...
(Stay tuned...an English version will follow soon)
Die COVID-19 Situation betrifft uns alle. Wir wissen am Abend nicht, zu welchen Neuigkeiten wir am Morgen aufwachen. Ungewissheit und Sicherheitsverlust lässt uns hilflos fühlen - und kann Angst uns Sorge auslösen. Für unsere Familie, für unseren Job oder Unternehmen.
Nachdem ich mit vielen Menschen in den letzten Tagen gesprochen habe und immer wieder ähnliche Geschichten gehört habe, habe ich mich entschlossen, ein Video mit Tipps aufzunehmen.
Mit 4 Tipps und Ideen, wie wir mir der historischen Situation und den auf uns einstürmenden Gefühlen umgehen können.
Stay safe and healthy.
Zusammen schaffen wir das.
PS: Ich habe mich mit einer Kollegin zusammengetan und wir haben uns entschieden, eine Initiative für Leader und Unternehmer zu starten um in dieser aussergewöhnlichen Situation Menschen KOSTENLOS zu unterstützen, die emotionale Seite...
Recently one of my new clients confessed to me (feeling rather shameful about it) that often he finds himself in important meetings when this particular colleague, a level above him who permanently wipes off his suggestions and arguments.
“Yeah, but….” is the standard reaction and on top of that, he keeps interrupting him rudely in front of the whole board or sometimes business partners.
Immediately his brain is running hot & is overloaded, thoughts bouncing back and forth. Despite being a brilliant person, these witty answers he would love to say right there and then don’t seem to come through.
“I’m always stuck in my head, analyse & overthink things, which makes my head almost explode then. I even catch myself holding my breath when I think & think & think. Some of the thoughts even haunt me at night afterwards! Leaving me mentally rather exhausted, and I have to hold back to not explode in someone’s...
Insight no 1:
Whatever someone does “to” me, has nothing to do with me and all to do with the other person.
“He never said thank you – he’s ignoring me….I’m not really important”. We’ve all been there. Someone treats us horrible, outside of our set of values or understanding. We start interpreting, put a label on the behaviour, judge, and unfortunately, the judgement often has to do with beating ourselves up on some level.
It must be me, right? Why would this person say that otherwise (or ignore me, or be rude, offensive or whatever)?
We all go through some struggle. So does the person we might have issues with. Most of our thoughts circle around ourselves (this is why we take things so personally!). So do the thoughts of the other person.
Their rudeness, offensiveness, negligence or dismissiveness has nothing to do with us and all with him or her. How he sees the world, what kind of challenges the person deals...
What energy do you bring into the room (or situation)?
Huh? Is that important?
YES - absolutely.
This Saturday I experienced quite a backlash while not being aware of my own energy.
With quite some consequences.
The (almost magical) power of that and how to do it, I'm explaining here in this short video.
And as always: the first step is AWARENESS. As we cannot change what we don't even know....and then we're only surprised by or suffer from the results.
Let me know your experiences with that in the comments.
Last Sunday morning I watched a little video on FB. Having just had enjoyed an episode of one my favourite (actually a bit of a love/hate thing going on there) TV shows before (lots of human drama - don't we all know that one), this made me very thoughtful.
I went into the kitchen and prepared my breakfast. My son was still fast asleep – so I was on my own (well, with the dog).
And decided to leave my pad and my phone out of the kitchen. No radio or Alexa either. So, it was quiet. And when I started eating, I enjoyed the crispy edges of the rye bread which I had toasted before putting butter on it. It had melted into the bread and I could taste it now with every bite. I noticed the slightly sweet and coolish taste of the ripe tomato (from my October harvest) in my mouth. I saw the irregular pattern of red flakes of chili in the guacamole I had prepared earlier and the considerable difference in texture of all I ate. Creamy, fresh, crunchy. My brain wandered off…well,...