For Leaders Who Don't just Want Success but also Bliss and Balance. Those Who Dare To Be Human & Real and Who Know That Leading Others Starts With Leading Themselves
When I first heard the term radical responsibility - for ourselves - I squirmed a bit inside.
Does that mean I can’t blame others and the circumstances for how I feel?
Don’t get me wrong…I’m also being influenced by the “good” or “bad” happening around me or in my life. I just don’t let those take my life over!
Be it “difficult” people, things not going my way, unexpected bills, a project failing, not getting the deal, being criticised harshly …you name it.
They don’t ruin whole days or weeks
Because it’s ME in charge for how I feel and how much I let things around me affect me. This is not about closing off and pretending that I’m above everything, it’s rather about being aware of my power over my own life - not people or circumstances but rather how I respond to stuff happening.
And I’m not handing over my personal power over to people or circumstances...
End of July, my furry companion of 13.5 years got sick and got so poorly that I had to let her go after 4 days. Having been with me almost 24/7 during all her life, she left a huge hole.
Ten days later, I got a call from my mum informing me that my dad had passed. He still went out shopping in the morning, had lunch and did not wake up from his nap anymore. Despite having been in his 80's there were no signs of his death being imminent.
A few days later, I felt extremely exhausted and unwell and was down for days running a heavy fever and some other cold symptoms. I had (finally) caught Covid.
That all sounds like the start to a really bad movie, right?
And still, this is exactly what happened in my life during the last four weeks.
A real "test" of all the concepts and ideas I talk about, stand for and teach others.
I had first reactions to both of my losses, of course. I was asking myself what I could have done better - did I...
Last week a rather frustrated and utterly exhausted client was getting exasperated about their "super difficult" situation: "I have to do all these things NOW as there is only a certain time window and on top of that I have to prepare a presentation - which came around the corner very short notice."
I cautiously asked: "What could you say no to?".
"Nothing," was the answer - "If I don't do it - nobody will. I can't possibly let anyone down."
Phew - no wonder did my client feel overwhelmed and even helpless. In other words - stuck - unable to change the situation nor the feeling.
Sounds familiar? The I-have-so-much-to-do-and-can't-do-anything-about-it-scenario?
With the same feelings coming along?
Well, it was definitely VERY familiar to me years ago running my own business as a single mum.
Now the million-dollar question is; HOW the heck can you get out of that?
Well, the short answer is: TAKING RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY for your life.