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Monday thought #19: Why I don't worry - even in times which are anxiety-inducing
This week I had a phone call with my best friend in the US. We talked about the usual topics…kids, our own challenges and joys (like my new puppy) and finally about the currently biggest and most threatening topic: the war in Europe.
At the end of the conversation she asked: "Are you worried?" (my definition of worry = a chain of negative thoughts about bad things that might happen in the future), and I answered:
"No, I'm not."
Not because it's not threatening or my personal beliefs about if this will escalate or not. I feel for all the people suffering and I'm very sad that this can happen in this day and age.
I'm not worried though because it does not help.
Not me.
Not anybody else in my life or among those who are directly affected.
And it definitely does not change the situation.
In fact, it makes my days worse if I do."
Am I indifferent to this awful situation? Or cold like a fish?
Neither.
I used to worry a lot.
...
Monday thought #10: "The Cost of Fear"
Fear is the worst advisor in our life. And often people pay attention to it or their decisions are influenced by it without even realizing that it's fear they're listening to.
Been there, done that - and sometimes still do (when my awareness is lacking!).
Fear is a common and daily companion for most people....and let's face it... it has its place and can prevent us from taking unnecessary risks...like crossing a motorway during rush hour.
The sensation of fear does not distinguish though between an actual threat to our life....or an emotional threat. It simply kicks in - worst case with dire consequences for our life costing us more than we care to admit.
Listen in to learn:
1. Why fear is such a bad advisor
2. The 4 main costs we pay for letting fear reign
3. The 2 major ingredients of the alternative way
PS: If you have any comments or questions, just drop me an e-mail at [email protected]
Monday thought #6: How safe do you feel?
Feeling safe is crucial for productivity & creativity (and joy) & the 2 reasons why it can be absent.
How safe do you feel these days? A topic that tends to come up again and again with people I talk to and is being addressed in quite a few companies right now (#psychologicalsafety).
For me, safety is mainly the absence of fear.
And let's face it: there are lots of things, situations and people to be afraid of or to worry about. For some people more - for some less.
Here's my Monday thought where I talk about WHY emotional safety is so crucial, the surprising truth where it starts and comes from (and where not), and the two things that are in the way of creating it sustainably.
Let me know what you think and if that is something you have experienced (just hit [email protected] and send me your thoughts).
#mondaythoughts #personalleadership #empowerment
Why disagreements and arguments are (one of) the best things that happen in my life - and it can do the same for you
No, I’m not suddenly mad. And no, I don’t enjoy suffering either. I simply realized that the adversities in my life were the most useful, even if not enjoyable moments. And often those difficult situations happen between people: Disagreements and arguments.
My reaction to them tells me an awful lot about myself. In fact, often stuff I’m not really aware of.
This counts for everybody. And it represents one of the biggest chances for us to grow AND to get a good look into our subconscious mind.
Let me take a step back and tell you a little story.
A couple of weeks ago, I suddenly found myself in a difficult situation. An incredibly important relationship in my life was suddenly in danger of falling apart. We had a call and suddenly I learned about something which let me stop, fill with anger and disappointment top to toe, and quickly one word led to another.
I felt betrayed and unsupported by something the person had done – and the other person felt that I had...
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Hi, I'm Claudia and the founder of The Better Workplace and creator of the Personal Leadership eXperience 5.0 program. Having spent 30 years in leading positions in the IT business, and running my own company provided me with tons of knowledge, insight and learnings which I'm sharing with you on a weekly basis. Oh - and did I mention that I raised two kids on my own? That was probably when I learned most about humans - how we work, and where we screw up. What works, what doesn't work. What makes us happy, how to get those relationships working and how to get more energy. Still lots to learn and to find out - and you can be the first to learn what I learn - just subscribe to my weekly newsletter and you're in. Lots of love, Claudia
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