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I’ve been a mum now for the last 27 years. And I can’t even begin to count all the mistakes I made. “Ah, we all do”, you might say. And yes, that is true. Particularly in this area, as for me, this is the toughest job in the world.
It’s not just a phrase, I know it. After all, I’ve raised my 2 children, mainly on my own. With hardly any support.
I provided both - a boy and a girl – with the same opportunities, the same affection and the same rules. The path and process were stunningly different. The results too.
Hindsight is a great thing, right? It allows us to learn and to adapt. Which I clearly did. Still, I know I could have avoided some significant mistakes, had I started at the right end: Me.
This is my motivation to share. As it might avoid some horrifically tricky situations. Or at least give you the certainty that you’re not alone, and it might give you so much more peace of mind when it comes to your children, seeing...
What energy do you bring into the room (or situation)?
Huh? Is that important?
YES - absolutely.
This Saturday I experienced quite a backlash while not being aware of my own energy.
With quite some consequences.
The (almost magical) power of that and how to do it, I'm explaining here in this short video.
And as always: the first step is AWARENESS. As we cannot change what we don't even know....and then we're only surprised by or suffer from the results.
Let me know your experiences with that in the comments.
It was about a year ago when my son had just finished an internship after his high school degree. At that stage, it was clear that his plan A – studying in Scotland – had not worked out. Well, and there was no plan B.
The latter did not seem to bother him too much. Life was good. Sleeping in, making music, getting food served (well, most of the time) and supposedly not having a worry in his life.
Except for his nagging mum – me.
- Organized regular “meetings” with him, talking about how he intends to move on, giving all sorts of options
- Trained him in regards of how to organize the next and necessary steps, after he decided that studying is still the future of choice
- Set up a Kanban board with him in his room so that he could see at any time what has to be done and to remind him of stuff (even at 20, the teenage typical forgetfulness seems to be pretty prevalent).
- Had long conversations with him to help him finding his WHY
Have you ever wondered why some people just crush it and walk from one success to another, perform like crazy and seem to be even happier than the rest of us?
These people must have super powers, right? They were just lucky to be born like that.
Admittedly - we are all different - which is wonderful as it is. Have you ever felt a bit neglected or disadvantaged when it comes to the distribution of the good stuff? Or felt like this world is really unfair?
Let’s face it though, nobody is born with a bad or a good attitude or great skills or lousy ones. Or with being just positive or being negative.
Even if we are happy to state exactly that “Well, I’ve always been the half-glass-empty-person, can’t help it”. “I’m just not like that”, “I don’t have these powers other people have”. In fact you can, and you have - I’ll come back to that in a moment.
Some of us might even have gone through Myers Briggs...