Watch & Read - For Leaders Who Dare To Be Human&Real
Too much to do (or so it seems) and too little time. A common disease which attacks me as well from time to time. Suddenly things seem to pile up and before we can blink, the day is over.
And the pressure increases.
And voila: we feel stressed, thoughts start racing in our head, we're urgently looking for solutions, start rushing and trying to be even more efficient than usual.
More often than not with the result that we're even more stressed AND still not all things are being done, we start lagging behind, which boosts stress again.
A pretty damn horrible spiral.
Thankfully there are some strategies that help us getting out of that. In this video I talk about the 3 I found really helpful and most effective (there are many more - still, got to start somewhere, right?).
Well, that's exactly the trap we fall into when we got so much to do. Instead of hitting the brakes and changing something, we continue doing more of what we've done in the...
Are you rolling your eyes inwardly (another annoying person telling me how to do more!) and still getting drawn into the topic? “Wow, I know that there is so much to do that I have not done and I clearly did not achieve everything I really wanted” and “this headline really triggered me…and not in a good way”.
Well, now you are here you might just want to check out if there is anything NEW that you can do to actually achieve more, faster.
In my last article in which you could score yourself where you are on the scale of Personal Leadership, I gave you 9 questions to go through (in case you missed it go through the test and get your results right away – here we go).
One of the them was, “how productive am I”? If we strive to live the life and have the career we desire, we have got to get things done. Otherwise there won’t be any progress. “Oh, I don’t want progress”, you might think now. In...
Quite honestly: 5 years ago I did not have a clue what Personal Leadership was. As I simply did not give it a thought. The definition that is.
Instinctively though I realized that there is something wrong with the way of how we learn to lead.
When I had just passed my mid-twenties and I worked for a start-up in the IT business (not that we called it like that 25 years ago) it was the first time that I managed a team. I had 3 people in a sales team to lead. And I failed miserably.
None of my team was in the slightest inspired by me and I had simply no idea what I was doing. Even when I read up about what I could do how and tested things out, it did only marginally get better. The second time around leading a team in a different organisation went better, still not great though.
Well, I could have assumed that I was simply a lousy leader. I realized later though, that I had started at the wrong end.
What is the right end then?
Quite simple on one...
I bet that triggered your interest…what’s she talking about – would have done the trick for me :-).
So, I start with a spoiler and disclose the answer right away: A COACH.
In fact, at least one.
Of COURSE I would be saying that - I'm a coach myself and just want to sell my stuff, right?
Before you let judgement settle in right away, bear with me for a second (well, probably a few minutes, unless you’re one of this super readers).
Coaches that is. Not seconds.
Not because I am particularly rich or…ehmm… incapable ;-).
I will explain why in a moment – let me tell you a little story first:
My idea of building up a different and new business came up about a year ago. Even a tad before that, come to think of it.
So, I made a plan (hey, after all I AM a business woman with decades of experience), decided what I had to learn (how to build lists, how to create a course, how to shoot an effing video….and how...
Have you ever wondered why some people just crush it and walk from one success to another, perform like crazy and seem to be even happier than the rest of us?
These people must have super powers, right? They were just lucky to be born like that.
Admittedly - we are all different - which is wonderful as it is. Have you ever felt a bit neglected or disadvantaged when it comes to the distribution of the good stuff? Or felt like this world is really unfair?
Let’s face it though, nobody is born with a bad or a good attitude or great skills or lousy ones. Or with being just positive or being negative.
Even if we are happy to state exactly that “Well, I’ve always been the half-glass-empty-person, can’t help it”. “I’m just not like that”, “I don’t have these powers other people have”. In fact you can, and you have - I’ll come back to that in a moment.
Some of us might even have gone through Myers Briggs...
Do you know the feeling: When you come into the office in the morning - despite your to-do list - you’re getting sidetracked more or less immediately?
By this colleague coming into your office with this super urgent request to come up with the latest numbers of sales for the last couple of weeks
Or you check your mails first thing in the morning (maybe even before you get out of bed?) and there is that urgent meeting and tons of mails from people demanding your attention
You get my gist.
And when the day is over you’ve probably not finished half of what you had on your agenda.
I almost bet you know the feeling. I did. And I am still struggling with it from time to time if I don't pay enough attention or let myself being distracted from my daily routines.
So just imagine you could actually get your important stuff done, you could work on your projects as planned and your overall productivity would sky rocket suddenly...
Probably a stupid question...I bet you have. I certainly have, particularly during my time working for large corporates (but not only then).
I was even guilty of planning just that kind of really time wasting meeting...how embarrassing!
Our world has become rather complex, super busy and overwhelming a lot of the time - what a contrast to 20 years ago, when things were so much slower, less information was streaming our way and we had simply more time to finish and accomplish things. The level of urgency was a completely different one than we have today.
A high volume of long meetings increases the pressure we all experience today, and if they result in nothing or...
When was the last time you came into the office and while checking your e-mails in the morning – grave mistake by the way – all those demands from loads of people were streaming towards you.
Skype, messenger, whatsapp….slack….you name it- all channels where the “urgent” stuff comes in.
I know exactly how that feels. In actual fact my grown up daughter is absolutely great in trying to get my attention for supposedly really urgent stuff. Of course I am only a skype call away. Or a click on the send button in the e-mail. “I urgently need this document to be proof read…can you please do that today?” (subtext: because I want to get that done….and I know you are good with this).
All those communication tools are a perfect way for other people to get their agenda organized…
…and we can...
Work – tasks – responsibilities, deadlines or even re-creative activities compete for our attention….and as we know, our brain is not good at handling multiple things at the same time.
Finally this makes you feel overwhelmed and out of control.
Well – I definitely know the feeling.
When – years ago - I found myself as a single mom with a full time job and eventually my own business, I struggled a lot getting things done and sometimes, after a super busy day, I often had the feeling that I had achieved nothing, or at least not much….despite working all day.
I tried a lot of productivity tools - none of them with a lasting effect. Sounds familiar?
Have you ever attended meetings where there was no agenda or just a vague idea of one?
Basically you have no idea what to expect from the meeting and the likelihood that you opt out or get bored out of your tree is VERY large. Without a clear idea of what is going to happen how can you prepare anything? Simply put, you can't.
But did you ever dare to NOT attend a meeting your boss is inviting you to?
It’s not that long ago when I attended a meeting with two business partners where the main outline was: Let’s get together to talk about our future strategy. Nothing else.
I went and took my tree in case I needed something to be bored out of. Lovely meeting place (after all this summer was great), the coffee was superb…and we even got cake! An agenda was still nowhere in sight.
When everybody was there (one was late, so half an hour was already gone before actually starting – except eating cake of course) we actually spent another 20 minutes putting...